BIGD:"well, what have they done to you?"
"i don't know."
BIGD:"was it big?"
"yeah."
BIGD:"did it really hurt you?"
"..yeah."
BIGD:"so then that person isn't loyal if they've hurt you."
"but what if they really mean that they're sorry?"
BIGD:"there are 2 types of people in this situation.. the first will keep hurting you, but worse everytime, and the second will stop."
"..stop if they really mean it?"
BIGD:"yeah."
"so then, i should forgive AND forget?"
BIGD:"it takes time."
"how long?"
BIGD:"it's your decision if you really are willing to have this person in your life again to be friends."
"but i want things to be okay, NOW."
BIGD:"it takes time.."
"but why did you decide to for me?"
BIGD: "that what?"
"you said i wouldn't be able to rely on that person ever again, if you're saying they're not loyal..doesn't that mean, we can't ever be friends again, if they're not going to be loyal?"
BIGD: "you have to be careful, but you can be friends again."
"why can't i just forgive right away?"
BIGD: "if that person's really your friend.. they're going to wait until you're ready to be friends. if you let them be in your life too quickly, they might take advantage of that."
"i want to be friends."
BIGD: "if it was really big, you can't be friends right away.. it takes time."
"no it doesn't."
BIGD: "then.. that's an unhealthy friendship."
"God said you should forgive right away."
BIGD: "you can, but it takes awhile for the human mind to be ready to be in a friendship again. it's like wet candle wax.. you have to wait for it to harden and be strong to be able to use it again."
"oh.. okay, but how long will it take then?"
BIGD: you'll know when you're ready, and only you will be the one to decide that.. but that's immeasurable."you can't measure love."
okay, dad, okay. -i'm surprised i remembered this much of our conversation too.
